The emotional effects of divorce or separation are not only felt by two people who are getting separation or divorce. It is usually very hard for those people who are very close to the divorcing couples. Kids of the couple have much hard time dealing with emotional effects of divorce. Family members and close friends can also feel conflicting emotions when anyone close to them gets divorce. Some of people that divorce can have the emotional effects on to them are being listed here.
First of all your children will be much affected with your divorce because they want their mom and dad living together and caring for them. So normally it is very hard for the kids of divorcing couple. If your kids are younger normally ages 13 and younger then they can not understand completely the reasons of divorce and start blaming themselves for separation. Usually older children especially those who are teenagers or pre-teen can understand the causes a little clear but they still emotionally distress by the divorce.
When the parents get separation or divorce children feel that their entire world is going to be changed which is very crushing. Guilt is a usual emotion for kids of divorcing parent, especially in the case that when child is enough old to choose one parent she or he wants to go with. Making a choice in this case is very painful and stressful for child. Parents must be open with their kids if they are getting divorce and try to do not involve your children in arguments. Parents must also explain their children that the separation is in no way their mistake and they can not do anything with then or anything that they have done incorrect. It is also advisable for divorcing parents try to impose bit changes to the life of your children if possible. Keeping schedules and routine is a good method to help children through this emotional time.
Your friends are also very close to you and they also get emotional effects of divorce. Many times adult couples spend time with other adult couple, they go out together for eating, vacationing, barbequing, and some other couple activities together. When any couple decides to get divorce it can be discomfited strain on friendship. It is much emotional time for the friends of divorcing couple because they want to see their friends living together.
Your family members also want to see you together. So your family members also feel bad for your divorce. It is hard time for them too. It is not very common for family member like father in law, mother in law, brother in law, or sister in law to come close to person in divorce who is not their family member by blood. It can take emotional toll to the family member when you try to figure out best method to manage the situation. Evidently wanting to be trusty to the family is very important but close friendship is also very important.
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